The police are not often allies or friends, and while yes, they may temporarily prevent your friend from killing themselves, the cops often create more trauma than they resolve.This is probably controversial advice, as usually you’re told to call 911, but seriously, having the cops being called as a threat over my head has made me more determined to take fatal risks to avoid them and/or made me not want to tell anyone I’m feeling that bad in the first place. Don’t say any of the following: “But you have so much to live for! ” “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! ” All of these are incredibly dismissive and/or make the feelings we’re having suddenly about you. Knowing that you’re not going to drag them kicking and screaming to the ER is huge. Be an advocate if you go to the hospital or clinic with them.
It can be incredibly difficult to be a support person for someone struggling with these issues, and I get asked a lot what to say or what to do. I might be especially sensitive to this because I live in the Bay Area, right by San Francisco, the home of many beautiful things like the Musee Mechanique, the Bring Your Own Big Wheel Race, the Sutro Baths, Emperor Norton and queer porn.
Depression has a loud and convincing voice that dominates the minds of those who suffer from it.
There's little room for reason, which makes it hard for partners to know how to be helpful.
Their false but strong belief that they have accomplished nothing or that they have little to live for can leave you feeling helpless, and confused as to how to respond.
These all-or-nothing, black-and-white thought patterns often illustrate depressed thinking.